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> The second core issue is modern dating. That one I don't know how to fix, but the essential issue there is the dynamics of dating not requiring commitment cou
by iammisc 5y ago
> The second core issue is modern dating. That one I don't know how to fix, but the essential issue there is the dynamics of dating not requiring commitment coupled with financial security for women mean long term pair bonding happens at a lower rate and later in life.
One way to fix it is the government deciding to highly encourage 'old-fashioned' social norms.
For example, we could have single-sex spaces, which help the sexes develop unique cultures that they then have to rely on each other for.
Or we could encourage single-income-earning, realizing more men are going to take advantage of this, and encourage more stay-at-home parenting, realizing that more women will take advantage of this (but by no means should the sex of either role be forced).
Or, we could change sex-ed curricula to focus more broadly on family formation and its importance.
Encourage church membership, since that used to constitute a large portion of the dating pool, and makes it easier for people to find others like them.
Idolize the roles of mothers and fathers and how it's a national duty.
There's lots of ways to fix it. The willpower simply isn't there. Of course, many people are in complete denial as to the root causes too. The truth is sexual attraction is fundamentally based on sexual difference. Save for a slim minority of the population, this is true across the board (yes, even in homosexual relationships). The reason why dating sucks and people can't find partners is because we've attempted to eradicate all sexual difference, but every once in a while human nature overpowers even this, and we see phenomena which our current culture cannot explain but is easily explainable in the larger context of the human condition (for example, the popularity of 50 shades of grey amongst women, or the popularity of 'seduction culture' and the manosphere amongst men).
- feoren 5y agoHonestly this sounds like a dystopian nightmare. It sounds like you're saying we all need to go back to everyone being a Good Christian who knows Their Place In Society and that will solve everything. Yikes! Maybe I'm reading too much into it, or do you actually want a Handmaid's Tale future?
- iammisc 5y agoHow can you honestly compare what I wrote to the handmaid's tale, in which women are forced to breed with men who are not even their husbands? There is no overlap between the two visions. Stop the strawmanning. There is literally nothing 'Christian' (your word, not mine) about men married to infertile women having mistresses. That's literally antithetical to the whole thing. You talk about 'knowing your place in society' as if that's a bad thing. A lot of social problems today descend from the fact that large portions of the population have no place in society.