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> How does the developed world pull out of this type of tailspin? 1. Find a young woman 2. Make her happy, and confident in you 3. ? 4. Pull your family for

> How does the developed world pull out of this type of tailspin? 1. Find a young woman 2. Make her happy, and confident in you 3. ? 4. Pull your family for the next 30-40 years With all respects, I always seen a family as a man's responsibility, and a failure at creating/maintaining one to coming from man's deficiencies first. In virtually every human culture in the world, even matriarchal societies, it is by default that a man needs to put more effort than a woman to score a marriage. It is very deeply ingrained into human culture. A man can always always find another woman if one does not want a family with him up until mid-thirties. A lot of time. And yes, I really want to have a family, and I really want to work hard to have one. It really sucks for bachelors. Unmarried people in most of Asia effectively lost 2 years of their reproductive life, and probably will lose at least 1 more year. It's completely incorrect to think that China had any much of normal life after quarantine succeeded. Last 12 months was a life in constant paranoia, extreme social unease, and daily life disruptions from periodic Covid breakthroughs.

nodejs_rulez_1 5y ago
A man can always always find another woman if one does not want a family with him up until mid-thirties. A lot of time. If you filter out the overweight, tattoo-covered ones, having kids by another man etc. you are left with just a few percent though.
- baybal2 5y ago
  In comparison to Russia, or China, America is a paradise for late marriage. The higher up you are on the social ladder, the quicker are the spouses taken from the marriage market. I was fortunate to go into somewhat prestigious highschool back in Russia. The last 3 bachelors from my class are all the people who managed to get it abroad. Everybody else was gone by mid-twenties, anybody with higher education by 23 at most. Seeing an unmarried woman with PhD level education, job, own roof over her head, and no skeletons in the closet over 30 in Russia is likely a hallucination. In Canada, I met new such almost monthly, and I grew rather rather complacent.
iammisc 5y ago
You should not be downvoted. Historically, this was the view. A traditional 'family' was mainly seen as a man's responsibility. The word 'husband' itself literally means a man bound to a house (i.e., a family or a lineage). Best of luck in your search for a wife. As a married man with kids, starting a family is the most wonderful thing. I feel terrible for young men and women during COVID, it's just a terrible human tragedy created by the government. IMO, dating should have been considered an essential activity. It would have been good for restaurants and the economy and young people. Tell the married people with kids to stay home while the young people can all go dance it up and get hitched. It's foundational to society.

nodejs_rulez_1 5y ago

A man can always always find another woman if one does not want a family with him up until mid-thirties. A lot of time. If you filter out the overweight, tattoo-covered ones, having kids by another man etc. you are left with just a few percent though.

baybal2 5y ago
In comparison to Russia, or China, America is a paradise for late marriage. The higher up you are on the social ladder, the quicker are the spouses taken from the marriage market. I was fortunate to go into somewhat prestigious highschool back in Russia. The last 3 bachelors from my class are all the people who managed to get it abroad. Everybody else was gone by mid-twenties, anybody with higher education by 23 at most. Seeing an unmarried woman with PhD level education, job, own roof over her head, and no skeletons in the closet over 30 in Russia is likely a hallucination. In Canada, I met new such almost monthly, and I grew rather rather complacent.

iammisc 5y ago

You should not be downvoted. Historically, this was the view. A traditional 'family' was mainly seen as a man's responsibility. The word 'husband' itself literally means a man bound to a house (i.e., a family or a lineage). Best of luck in your search for a wife. As a married man with kids, starting a family is the most wonderful thing. I feel terrible for young men and women during COVID, it's just a terrible human tragedy created by the government. IMO, dating should have been considered an essential activity. It would have been good for restaurants and the economy and young people. Tell the married people with kids to stay home while the young people can all go dance it up and get hitched. It's foundational to society.