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I definitely see procrastination linked to emotional processing issues for me. Maybe it's possible that there are things which provide immediate benefits, but f

I definitely see procrastination linked to emotional processing issues for me. Maybe it's possible that there are things which provide immediate benefits, but for me many things I tried evaporated and I was still left with this base note, so to speak, of myself. I went to therapy, I went to 12 step meetings, I read books, I journalled, I talked the hell out of my thoughts and feelings with certain friends, got divorced, took medication, found another amazing woman to marry, all along the way there was progress and regress, blind spots, lots of blind spots, lots of denial and resistance and fighting and turmoil and avoidance. The "answers" for me so far are absolutely nothing that haven't been said a thousand times in every place, but having met them myself in my own way at my own time. I'm not sure I could have gone any faster than I did, and I'm ok with that (now, at least).

pm90 5y ago
> The "answers" for me so far are absolutely nothing that haven't been said a thousand times in every place, but having met them myself in my own way at my own time. I'm not sure I could have gone any faster than I did, and I'm ok with that (now, at least) Don't want to play armchair therapist, but that's really the best anyone can really do.
mrweasel 5y ago
It's a little like dieting really. If there was something someone could just say to make your weight, procrastination, whatever go away, then these problems would not exist. There are exercises you can do, mentally and physically, which can help guide you through self-improvement, but they all require that we actually do them. Some times is feels like I go years without making any progress with myself. Other times is just takes a small new action to gain remarkable results. Like you, I'm not sure it could have gone any faster and that's okay.

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I definitely see procrastination linked to emotional processing issues for me. Maybe it's possible that there are things which provide immediate benefits, but f

by papandada 5y ago

pm90 5y ago
> The "answers" for me so far are absolutely nothing that haven't been said a thousand times in every place, but having met them myself in my own way at my own time. I'm not sure I could have gone any faster than I did, and I'm ok with that (now, at least) Don't want to play armchair therapist, but that's really the best anyone can really do.
mrweasel 5y ago
It's a little like dieting really. If there was something someone could just say to make your weight, procrastination, whatever go away, then these problems would not exist. There are exercises you can do, mentally and physically, which can help guide you through self-improvement, but they all require that we actually do them. Some times is feels like I go years without making any progress with myself. Other times is just takes a small new action to gain remarkable results. Like you, I'm not sure it could have gone any faster and that's okay.