I'll say something that i hope can be read objectively (2) thats a feature, not a bug. What you are really complaining is that you dont get a curated list of

I'll say something that i hope can be read objectively (2) thats a feature, not a bug. What you are really complaining is that you dont get a curated list of males that have (a) mastered finesse or (b) have natural beauty. However when you change the context (change supermarket with award gala for doctors) women do change their reaction to male encounters, because they evaluate every male as an potential partner instead of a waste of time. That's why men with no finesse or good looks, but in the right context, will get far with women. Im not saying that's you. And i abstain from judging either party. My point is that context matters. Which gets me to my next point. In life, there is always an element of volatility. Some days you are playing a sport in which you are very talented but you are still losing. Its just a bad day. In those days, you dont complain that the opposing player is playing better than you. You try your best and then move on. Males without finesse or good looks are such bad days. They are a fact of life. We want to wish them away, but that's utopia. Nature is full of guys that just don't have it. We cant magically wave away stupid, or clueless. The gene pool is diverse for a reason. Instead focus on the positive. You have good looks. You are in the competition. Make the best out of it. I've personally been hit on by gay guys. Some have come on rather strongly, and i have gotten some of the looks you describe. I am hopelessly straight, and sometimes even uncomfortable, but I smile, say thank you/no sorry, and move on with my day.