I think these sorts of groups tend to pretty naturally self-censor and filter when not dealing with victims. If we were at a conference and you were talking ab

I think these sorts of groups tend to pretty naturally self-censor and filter when not dealing with victims. If we were at a conference and you were talking about some intrusion and described it as a "piercing attack" - I might crack a joke about it being a shame you didn't have any huscarls around on defense... that joke would probably not land that well so I'd just shift my communication to a different domain to suit the audience. I'd imagine clumps of folks that enjoy bawdy jokes will occasionally test the waters with a light one on what they view as their peers (i.e. men) and if they get a poor response they'll shift tactics - only if you feed into their reference will they open up and start being horrible around you.