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I disagree. The difference is friendship vs commerce. Your employer-employee relationship is commercial, so it's reasonable of the CEO to think of your salary

I disagree. The difference is friendship vs commerce. Your employer-employee relationship is commercial, so it's reasonable of the CEO to think of your salary as market-driven, just as it is reasonable of you to leave when the market rate rises above what you're paid. It's business, you shouldn't take it personally. OTOH, the potluck is among friends. You're expected to have your friends' best interests in mind and to enjoy being around them, so it's not surprising that they'd be offended if they spent hours cooking and you just ran to the store and bought a cheap salad or some cookies.

wallacoloo 5y ago
> It's business, you shouldn't take it personally. I don't want that distinction. I am a person. Why should I want to pretend otherwise? What you're saying is similar to the "work/life balance" trope. My work is a part of my life, just as are friends, food, physical health, and the environment around me. I don't want to drive these things apart. I love it when the food part of my life overlaps with the friends part (social eating). I love it when the environmental part overlaps with the personal health part (outdoor exercise). Yet people speak of work as if it uniquely ought to be an exception. As if work is a thing you do only in order to allow you to do other things. HN is home to enough enthusiasts and tinkerers and people who actually enjoy creating things. Why drive this wedge between my desire to create and my personhood?