The flip side of that metaphor, though, is that most of us go to lots of parties without necessarily taking the same identity with us to each party. Further, us

The flip side of that metaphor, though, is that most of us go to lots of parties without necessarily taking the same identity with us to each party. Further, using people's legal names (if this fiasco demonstrates anything, it's that the concept of a "real" name is kind of a crock) doesn't guarantee better interactions - at the Facebook party I run into objectionable relatives all the time, but it's not really my party and I can't kick them out.