I'm pushy (not deliberately) and seem like a jerk to some people. I've spoken to a few folks like myself and the consensus seems to be we all wanted pushback bu

I'm pushy (not deliberately) and seem like a jerk to some people. I've spoken to a few folks like myself and the consensus seems to be we all wanted pushback but it really wasn't for any other reason than we wanted to hear good ideas/thoughts. Pushy people probably all lack a little empathy because we only care about the topic at hand. In your example - it doesn't occur to many people (me..) that saying "i don't like where that button is" suggests anything more than that specific thing.