My intuitive response as I started to read this was a sort of "gentle-art" thought: Would it be helpful for someone to start their question: "I don't know if I

My intuitive response as I started to read this was a sort of "gentle-art" thought: Would it be helpful for someone to start their question: "I don't know if I should know this [already]..." ? If the answer is [in context] indeed "yes", then that could help tune their threshold for when learn-by-self vs learn-by-others will be appropriate [again, in that context].