I am so triggered by this. The author is a prime example of a person with one nuero-type expecting every other person they work with to operate the same way as

I am so triggered by this. The author is a prime example of a person with one nuero-type expecting every other person they work with to operate the same way as them. It is anti-empathetic to folks with a neurodiverse background. The mentality is hostile to everyone that you work with. Let me address each point. 1. Some folks do well in an environment that is just to "catch up" or "hangout". This is called an unstructured meeting and it has value. It is impossible to ascertain if an unstructured meeting is going to have value to you or anyone else. Sometimes it's just going to be about getting people in the same room to chat (or even just to hang out and have fun -- and yes, fun and camaraderie is important and has value). You should not expect every meeting to be structured. 2. Asyncronous communication... or even just communication with other members on your team is important. Someone dropping into your DMs and asking you a question is... normal. How else are people supposed to communicate with you? Are you expecting them to call you? Are you going to be upset if they email you? Come on! -- You aren't going to be expected to respond immediately, and if you are just tell the person you are busy and will get back to them later. 3. Some people... a lot of people actually... are perfectly fine with dropping a conversation when it has finished. You don't have to cap every conversation with "goodbye". Again, remote communication is asynchronous by default. People have other things going on. They could be driving. They could be dealing with their kids. They could have been called by a higher-up to an inpromptu meeting. They might even... GASP... think differently than you do, or process information and communication differently than you do. Can you believe it? Some people are different!!! 4. There are a great many types of people out there who are terrible at "deep work" (i.e. programming / design / whatever), but excellent at organizing people and tracking tasks / removing blockers, and helping people "get shit done". These people are valuable. If you don't recognize this value... I really question your engineering prowess overall. 5. Some people are introverts, have social anxiety, are autistic, or otherwise self-conscious. As someone who is openly autistic the author's mentality here is... frankly disgusting and offensive to me. Not everything is about you, brah. Have you ever considered how the person not turning on their camera is feeling? Did it ever cross your mind that maybe that has a debilitating effect on them -- or otherwise harms or hinders them? People are different. Fucking deal with it. This author...Daniel Yefet... sounds like a total ass to work with. Daniel, it's not others that need to grow and change. It's you. You are the problem.