Don't compliment unless something particular, that they've done, actually stands out. Instead, do thank people, even for little things — far too often people ar

Don't compliment unless something particular, that they've done, actually stands out. Instead, do thank people, even for little things — far too often people are left without thanks, and showing that you notice even the small things they do will encourage them and help to reinforce positive behavior, all while not indicating, accidentally or otherwise, that you want something out of them or are interested in them. It's a far bigger win for them, and does not have a primary role as social lubrication, unlike compliments.