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How many people who struggle with porn are actually just using it as a replacement for dealing with more destructive addictions? This was the issue for me, as
by kmnc 5y ago
How many people who struggle with porn are actually just using it as a replacement for dealing with more destructive addictions? This was the issue for me, as a problem gambler porn became a scapegoat that I had more control over then gambling. It became a scapegoat for other things as well like not taking care of myself.
The thing is, it was only when I decided to stop having an unhealthy relationship with porn full of negativity and self hatred that I began to focus on my actual issues.
I use porn multiple times a week now, but I make sure to enjoy it, and make sure to think positively afterwards. It is incredible how just shifting your perspective can change things. Porn was not the problem, thinking it was is what put me in a cycle of self hatred.
Now don’t get me wrong, building up willpower and having a foundation to change your life is very powerful, but make sure you are changing the right thing.
A healthy relationship with porn and self love has actually been incredibly beneficial to dealing with my real addiction: gambling.
- zero_billion 5y agothanks for sharing your experience. i guess it's different for different people. i have heard stories of young men who had erectile dysfunction. They could not get an erection with their partner but could an erection with porn. quitting porn has helped many such people overcome ED. before anyone asks, this relation of erectile dysfunction to porn is not yet proven. hopefully there will be more studies on the same in coming years. so, i would say for some quitting porn in itself improved their life conditions.
- thewebcount 5y agoDo you have any science on that? A friend mentioned this to me, so I looked it up, and I could find no evidence (from reputable sources) that it's true. There does appear to be an increase in ED in younger men in recent years, and also a decrease in sperm count, but not one of the sources I found mentioned anything about porn usage being related.
- zero_billion 5y agotrue, i haven't found any research paper on this too. But, I have seen this being shared in our community posts.
- keyb0ardninja 5y agohttps://www.yourbrainonporn.com/research/ https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/research/ https://youtube.com/watch?v=Ru3RQbsaYfM https://youtube.com/watch?v=Ru3RQbsaYfM
- keyb0ardninja 5y agohttps://www.yourbrainonporn.com/research/ https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/research/ https://youtube.com/watch?v=Ru3RQbsaYfM https://youtube.com/watch?v=Ru3RQbsaYfM
- belorn 5y agoWikipedia has a good hint over the science for ED: In about 80% of cases, physical causes can be identified.[2] These include cardiovascular disease; diabetes mellitus; neurological problems, such as those following prostatectomy; hypogonadism; and drug side effects. About 10% of cases are psychological impotence, caused by thoughts or feelings;[2] here, there is a strong response to placebo treatment. If a patient can not get an erection with their partner but can with porn, the cause is unlikely to be physical.
- bambax 5y ago> quitting porn has helped many such people overcome porn Sure. Is this a typo though? What do you mean exactly?
- zero_billion 5y agocorrected this. i meant quitting porn has helped many such people overcome ED.
- joey_bob 5y agoProbably a lot. On another level, do you think there is a universal ordering of addictions, or might it depend somewhat on individual proclivities? Say, might ones real addiction be porn, and they use gambling as a less harming replacement? The caveat being the maximum levels of practical harm are much larger for some addictions than others.