Maybe. But drawing a conclusion for most females with n = 2 seems...tremulous. And expecting some sort of resolution between two different situations for which

Maybe. But drawing a conclusion for most females with n = 2 seems...tremulous. And expecting some sort of resolution between two different situations for which you don't have the complete context (nonverbals are key) is also going to be difficult. Now that I think about it, if you're looking for your own reference point, you might as well start with whatever your gut says, and alter from there. You'll learn quickly where you need to be. You're probably going to be too aggressive or too timid, and the only way to learn is to get out there. I was too timid, and some girls cut me some slack...but many did not. But I don't regret being too timid (despite missed opportunities) because, well, that was me, and I had to learn those things. I'm with a wonderful woman now, and am pretty close to where I'd like to be, and where I feel I should be on this scale. Best of luck.