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Here on this website, we spend an awful lot of time discussing how one person remote working on a team who are in-person can easily lead to being forgotten. Thi

Here on this website, we spend an awful lot of time discussing how one person remote working on a team who are in-person can easily lead to being forgotten. This is similar. When somebody is putting an event together and goes through their contact list on FB, you not being there puts you at a small disadvantage. If you're socially awkward in-person, it can really set you back.

austincheney 5y ago
It makes me wonder how these socially inept people lived life before Facebook ran their lives for them. Perhaps they cared about things more than following some high school drop out they once knew in a prior life decades before.
- ben_w 5y ago
  Facebook is a misaligned AI whose sole purpose is to put adverts in front of as many eyeball-seconds as possible. It is trying to manipulate us to that end, and with 2.8 billion people to practice on, it’s also very effective; much like junk food, it gives users the sensation of being good even though it isn’t. All of the big networks are trying to do that, with varying degrees of success. This isn’t about being “socially inept” — if everyone simultaneously agreed to not use social media, we could and would all go back to what we did before[0] — but even knowing the nature of the beast, dismissing its power, its pull, its allure, is a Canute move. [0] @iamstupidsimple was saying people not on the contact list would be more likely to be forgotten, and that’s true regardless of if the person not on the list is socially awkward or highly charismatic; before Facebook, the list was a piece of paper, but the same applies to that paper list.
  - austincheney 5y ago
    There is nothing wrong with forgetting people you don’t care that much about. Expecting software to solve problems you never had before is the very definition of artificial.
    - ben_w 5y ago
      Missing the point. Everyone else is using software to solve problems they never had before, and failing to use it makes you the one out. When your kids’ friends send a request to all their social media contacts list, it takes extra effort for your kids’ friends to realise your kids are one of the few people who aren’t in that list and need to be contacted separately. Is that fair? No. Is it nice? No. Is it fun? No. Is it malicious? No. Is it a lack of interest on the part of your kids’ friends? No. Is it a reason for your kids to secretly make their own accounts without you knowing about it? Yes.
    - iamstupidsimple 5y ago
      Constantly hearing "oh, I thought I sent everyone an invite [on Facebook]" will hurt a child deeply.

austincheney 5y ago

It makes me wonder how these socially inept people lived life before Facebook ran their lives for them. Perhaps they cared about things more than following some high school drop out they once knew in a prior life decades before.

ben_w 5y ago
Facebook is a misaligned AI whose sole purpose is to put adverts in front of as many eyeball-seconds as possible. It is trying to manipulate us to that end, and with 2.8 billion people to practice on, it’s also very effective; much like junk food, it gives users the sensation of being good even though it isn’t. All of the big networks are trying to do that, with varying degrees of success. This isn’t about being “socially inept” — if everyone simultaneously agreed to not use social media, we could and would all go back to what we did before[0] — but even knowing the nature of the beast, dismissing its power, its pull, its allure, is a Canute move. [0] @iamstupidsimple was saying people not on the contact list would be more likely to be forgotten, and that’s true regardless of if the person not on the list is socially awkward or highly charismatic; before Facebook, the list was a piece of paper, but the same applies to that paper list.
- austincheney 5y ago
  There is nothing wrong with forgetting people you don’t care that much about. Expecting software to solve problems you never had before is the very definition of artificial.
  - ben_w 5y ago
    Missing the point. Everyone else is using software to solve problems they never had before, and failing to use it makes you the one out. When your kids’ friends send a request to all their social media contacts list, it takes extra effort for your kids’ friends to realise your kids are one of the few people who aren’t in that list and need to be contacted separately. Is that fair? No. Is it nice? No. Is it fun? No. Is it malicious? No. Is it a lack of interest on the part of your kids’ friends? No. Is it a reason for your kids to secretly make their own accounts without you knowing about it? Yes.
  - iamstupidsimple 5y ago
    Constantly hearing "oh, I thought I sent everyone an invite [on Facebook]" will hurt a child deeply.