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I'm torn on this one. I feel bad for the priest, but at the same time he chose to devote his life to an organization that hates people like him and has played a

I'm torn on this one. I feel bad for the priest, but at the same time he chose to devote his life to an organization that hates people like him and has played a role in anti-gay sentiment throughout the world. Also, nothing wrong with being gay, but there is something wrong with having a libido so out of control that you're looking for hookups literally every day.

_vertigo 5y ago
So, it's his fault for being part an institution that's judgmental of certain sexual preferences, but also you're, like, totally judging him for his sexual preferences?
- oh_sigh 5y ago
  Yes. If you elide/abstract all details away, you can make anything sound hypocritical. Let's take a food analogy: The Catholic church has the equivalent viewpoint of "Anyone who likes pizza more than hamburgers is wrong and has no place here". My viewpoint is "Binge eating disorders are bad and you should seek professional help if you have that disorder".
  - elliekelly 5y ago
    Except being gay isn't a disorder so there's no "professional help" he could or should have sought.
    - vokep 5y ago
      Except sex addiction is, gay or not. It seems uncertain if he really was having gay hookups all the time, or just was using the app. It does seem implied that the data points towards lots of hookups though.
    - oh_sigh 5y ago
      Notice how I never said that being gay was a disorder, and even said "There is nothing wrong with being gay". It seems like you have issues with the Catholic church rather than me. The disorder I spoke of would be sex addiction, which exists independently of what gender a person is attracted to.
azinman2 5y ago
You don't know that he was looking for hookups. I know that the data for a competitor of scruff showed that at least 1/3 of the people just wanted to find someone to chat with. I still can't see why the assumption here was that he broke his vow of celibacy. If he's gay and closeted, I can see the human need for connection (whether in real life at gay bars or on Grindr) of like kind even if he doesn't participate with an 'out of control libido.' You're snapping to judgement.

_vertigo 5y ago

So, it's his fault for being part an institution that's judgmental of certain sexual preferences, but also you're, like, totally judging him for his sexual preferences?

oh_sigh 5y ago
Yes. If you elide/abstract all details away, you can make anything sound hypocritical. Let's take a food analogy: The Catholic church has the equivalent viewpoint of "Anyone who likes pizza more than hamburgers is wrong and has no place here". My viewpoint is "Binge eating disorders are bad and you should seek professional help if you have that disorder".
- elliekelly 5y ago
  Except being gay isn't a disorder so there's no "professional help" he could or should have sought.
  - vokep 5y ago
    Except sex addiction is, gay or not. It seems uncertain if he really was having gay hookups all the time, or just was using the app. It does seem implied that the data points towards lots of hookups though.
  - oh_sigh 5y ago
    Notice how I never said that being gay was a disorder, and even said "There is nothing wrong with being gay". It seems like you have issues with the Catholic church rather than me. The disorder I spoke of would be sex addiction, which exists independently of what gender a person is attracted to.

azinman2 5y ago

You don't know that he was looking for hookups. I know that the data for a competitor of scruff showed that at least 1/3 of the people just wanted to find someone to chat with. I still can't see why the assumption here was that he broke his vow of celibacy. If he's gay and closeted, I can see the human need for connection (whether in real life at gay bars or on Grindr) of like kind even if he doesn't participate with an 'out of control libido.' You're snapping to judgement.