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If someone is really more important than you, they will get really frustrated if they have waste time driving the tiddly bits of the relationship. I cut down u
by sunir 15y ago
If someone is really more important than you, they will get really frustrated if they have waste time driving the tiddly bits of the relationship.
I cut down useless steps so I didn't waste time. I remained polite; I asked for the time, I didn't make it an order. I drove to an action to move the relationship forward. That's respect.
If they aren't available at the time you ask, they will take command and respond with times they are available. Then you defer.
- jackpirate 15y agoI agree with all of that, I just think both options equally meet those objective criteria. The only difference is how the recipient perceives the message. I think it's largely a difference in culture between academia (my realm) and business. A professor, for example, might assume that you have particular reasons for selecting the time slot you have and wonder whether he should clear room in his schedule to meet your expectations. In this case, selecting an exact time before hand provides a minor inconvenience to him.