The two things that have scared me away from k8s: 1) Churn + upgrade horror stories, 2) Apparent heavy reliance on 3rd party projects to use it well and sanel

The two things that have scared me away from k8s: 1) Churn + upgrade horror stories, 2) Apparent heavy reliance on 3rd party projects to use it well and sanely which can (in my experience, in other ecosystems) seriously hamper one's ability to resist the constant-upgrade train to mitigate problem #1. Basically, I'm afraid it's the Nodejs (or React Native—folks who've been there will know what I mean) of cluster management, not the... I dunno, Debian, reliable and slowly changing and sits-there-and-does-its-job. Does it seem that way to you and is just so good it's worth it anyway, or am I misunderstanding the situation?