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I think there has been a general rise in selfish behavior now that pandemic restrictions are being lifted. You have people who never took the pandemic seriously
by oramit 5y ago
I think there has been a general rise in selfish behavior now that pandemic restrictions are being lifted. You have people who never took the pandemic seriously and now that things are back open, but are not the same, they are lashing out. That's one part of this.
I also think you have another camp, which I'll admit to being a member of. I did everything I was supposed to do. I stayed at home, used masks everywhere, took no trips, and had very few social engagements for more than a year - and it sucked. Now that things are open all I want to do is go out. Even though I know that I should lower my expectations, I can't help emotionally but feel entitled to having a good time now.
The thought rolling around my head is:
I did everything that was asked of me for a year and a half, I deserve to have fun now.
As I write that I know intellectually how self-centered, selfish, and delusion it is but I feel it intensely.
- motohagiography 5y agoAfter a year of piety, it's possibly just "moral licensing." (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-licensing https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-licensing) I can't remember the other term, but there is a related concept where we do things like separate our recycling, then fly private. Someone with a job helping other people becomes an abusive disaster at home. Or the classic relationship anti-pattern of partner who "does things for you, and now you owe them," (covert contract?) It's related to indulgences and self-licensing, and there is a calculation where we decide our past or even current good behaviour justifies poor behaviour now because we have an imaginary idea that we are somehow bargaining with the universe and it owes us something. (It doesn't care.) It's not the universe, it's your mother, and people are rude because they are caught in a psychological feedback loop of expectation, shame, and rage. For years I thought it was economically broken that even restaurant and café jobs required a college degree, but now I don't understand how anyone without a psychology degree could be equipped to work with the public. We are hell.
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- i_love_music 5y agoI really appreciate the honesty in your comment. I can relate to it closely and have had the same thought.
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- oliv__ 5y agoAs I write that I know intellectually how self-centered, selfish, and delusion it is but I feel it intensely. Almost as if there was some kind of flaw in the initial premise...
- oramit 5y agoCare to share the flaw instead of being vague?
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- vmception 5y agoI suggested the bold idea of going to the movies this Friday, in theatres And my friend replied “I don’t think theaters are a problem after the orgies” From my experience over the last several months hosting parties in reopened areas, people are open to anything. Even people that would be considered squares are taking the opportunity to live it up alongside the wild vagabonds I’ve never seen anything like it
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