It's not clear to me how the OP has interacted with his wife in reality, and I don't have interest in judging them. In the abstract, though, I think yes, if yo

It's not clear to me how the OP has interacted with his wife in reality, and I don't have interest in judging them. In the abstract, though, I think yes, if you see someone being abused repeatedly and you support and encourage them to continue going back to the abusive relationship, you are enabling the abuse.