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> Sex isn't a minor variable. It re-frames the entire problem in a context where people lose the ability to appropriately parse and manage their para-social rel

> Sex isn't a minor variable. It re-frames the entire problem in a context where people lose the ability to appropriately parse and manage their para-social relationships What is the reason people lose the ability to appropriately parse and manage themselves in the context of sex?

JohnWhigham 5y ago
What is the reason people lose the ability to appropriately parse and manage themselves in the context of sex? Because you've lost the context of what sex is and what it has been in society, and in humanity as a whole. Sex is inherently primal, bestial, even brutal in nature. We've been trained over hundreds of thousands of years to build ourselves up to it and in return we get rewarded with brain chemicals and the continuation of our species. You can't just expect to rewire millions of years of evolutionary drive and wrap it up in a cute discrete transaction. You're ludicrous for even trying. Every job has its occupational hazards. These the hazards of selling your crotch online. Either accept it, or move on. Stop trying to frame it as some sort of empowering path when in reality peoples' lives just get ruined.
- KaiserPro 5y ago
  > Sex is inherently primal, bestial, even brutal in nature. for ducks, yes. For primates, it varies. > rewire millions of years of evolutionary drive and wrap it up in a cute discrete transaction I don't think one can safely make that assertion. in Humans, sex is mostly cultural. Its not like we all return to the place of our birth to spawn, or spread our gametes in sync with the moon. We have huge amounts of control over how, when, where and what rules are applied to sex. It is common to have life partners, but in practice the average life span of a sexual relationship varies from hours to many years I suspect that you are seeing it through the lens of second hand middle class Victorian dogma. (like I do.) We (I say we, middle class class british) are taught that a good woman is one that is faithful and obedient. A good man however is heroic, and beats women off with a stick. Other cultures are not like that. Indeed Georgian England was not like that, especially in the upper and mercantile classes. (just look at the shit that happened in Vauxhall gardens.) But to answer your implied point, that selling one's body has always been seen as the lowest of the low. I don't think thats the case. Even in america a top quality brothel was held in higher esteem than dockers, Gong farmers or indeed peasants.
- post-it 5y ago
  Eating is inherently primal, bestial, even brutal in nature. You're expected to not abuse the meat counter clerk.
  - KaiserPro 5y ago
    This is what I should have said. This is an excellent reduction of my waffle.
blfr 5y ago
> What is the reason people lose the ability to appropriately parse and manage themselves in the context of sex? Its centrality to a billion year old process of sexual selection and reproduction.

JohnWhigham 5y ago

What is the reason people lose the ability to appropriately parse and manage themselves in the context of sex? Because you've lost the context of what sex is and what it has been in society, and in humanity as a whole. Sex is inherently primal, bestial, even brutal in nature. We've been trained over hundreds of thousands of years to build ourselves up to it and in return we get rewarded with brain chemicals and the continuation of our species. You can't just expect to rewire millions of years of evolutionary drive and wrap it up in a cute discrete transaction. You're ludicrous for even trying. Every job has its occupational hazards. These the hazards of selling your crotch online. Either accept it, or move on. Stop trying to frame it as some sort of empowering path when in reality peoples' lives just get ruined.

KaiserPro 5y ago
> Sex is inherently primal, bestial, even brutal in nature. for ducks, yes. For primates, it varies. > rewire millions of years of evolutionary drive and wrap it up in a cute discrete transaction I don't think one can safely make that assertion. in Humans, sex is mostly cultural. Its not like we all return to the place of our birth to spawn, or spread our gametes in sync with the moon. We have huge amounts of control over how, when, where and what rules are applied to sex. It is common to have life partners, but in practice the average life span of a sexual relationship varies from hours to many years I suspect that you are seeing it through the lens of second hand middle class Victorian dogma. (like I do.) We (I say we, middle class class british) are taught that a good woman is one that is faithful and obedient. A good man however is heroic, and beats women off with a stick. Other cultures are not like that. Indeed Georgian England was not like that, especially in the upper and mercantile classes. (just look at the shit that happened in Vauxhall gardens.) But to answer your implied point, that selling one's body has always been seen as the lowest of the low. I don't think thats the case. Even in america a top quality brothel was held in higher esteem than dockers, Gong farmers or indeed peasants.
post-it 5y ago
Eating is inherently primal, bestial, even brutal in nature. You're expected to not abuse the meat counter clerk.
- KaiserPro 5y ago
  This is what I should have said. This is an excellent reduction of my waffle.

blfr 5y ago

> What is the reason people lose the ability to appropriately parse and manage themselves in the context of sex? Its centrality to a billion year old process of sexual selection and reproduction.