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I think that people need to understand that once they put themselves out there, especially in sex-fueled environments, they’re adding risk to their lives. They

I think that people need to understand that once they put themselves out there, especially in sex-fueled environments, they’re adding risk to their lives. They put their sex on full display and think “yeah this is totally fine” while it obviously carries some huge societal weight. I’m not justifying their actions, but also don’t be surprised when they happen. The world isn’t perfect yet. I don’t care much about OF, but I’m sure assholes send threats on any platform, and it’s not really a platform issue as long as they implement blocking and some sort of spam prevention.

ipnon 5y ago
We have a "women and children first" reflex. We seem to draw extraordinary attention to the troubles of beautiful, young women. Call it "damsel in distress."
ipaddr 5y ago
You get more threats posting about Trump pro or con these days. Using a platform like fansonly allows the star to moderate and use the platform to guard against safety issues. Fansonly is pay only which limits the spam can help identify the crazy.
throwawayboise 5y ago
We used to say, "play stupid games, win stupid prizes."
- aniforprez 5y ago
  Seems a bit harsh to call it "stupid". Sex work is work that will always have demand. It sucks that society looks down on it and the market for it is so skewed towards creeps that people feel unsafe doing it and face so much harassment when found out
  - EvilEy3 5y ago
    > Sex work is work that will always have demand Sure, doesn't make it a good or socially acceptable job though.
    - tremon 5y ago
      Neither is garbage bin collection*, but there's still people doing it. *insert locally-relevant pariah job here
      - BoxOfRain 5y ago
        This is actually a really interesting concept, I was channel-flipping once and saw a programme about recycling where people doing things like retail work were taken to a recycling centre to learn about the process doing the job first hand. One of the girls on the programme's first reaction to the line where rubbish was sorted was along the lines of "I'm not a dirty person like you, why do I have to touch the rubbish?". Bearing in mind she would have probably have been paid less and was from the same area and background as the people she was dismissing as "dirty". The way we stigmatise "dirty" jobs is a bit weird, in the above scenario the "dirty" job would have likely paid better and is definitely more essential to society. It really stuck with me how the girl in the programme didn't just dismiss the job as dirty, but the person doing the job too as though taking a better paid but physically less pleasant job is somehow a dishonourable thing to do. This isn't a class thing either, both people in this scenario were from a working-class background so I don't think this is an issue of class-based snobbery.
      - mcosta 5y ago
        Garbage bin collection is more useful to society than boobs pics.
  - megous 5y ago
    Society empowers the creeps this way.
  - zthrowaway 5y ago
    Welcome to reality.
standardUser 5y ago
I know a good number of people in their 30's and 40's that do various types of sex work and I don't think they are deluding themselves about the risks. But it's easy to forget that most people engaging in this type of work are in their late teens and 20's and though I hate to stereotype, we know that a lot of people in those age ranges are less skilled at assessing risk and thinking longer term. The solution is probably education and removing stigma.
harambae 5y ago
While I'm not a heartless person and what happened in this article's story sounds both terrible and illegal, it also strikes me as a "comes with the territory" type of situation. There are downsides to most high paying jobs, otherwise everyone would do them (and then they wouldn't pay as well). It reminds me in some ways of "Locked Up Abroad" episodes where the person is easily making incredibly money smuggling drugs from southeastern asia and then is shocked when they are given an extremely harsh prison sentence. Like yes, there's a reason why a lot of other people didn't want to do this. The hourly premium was there for a reason. There's a downside. (Obviously it's not identical because Onlyfans is legal, but you get the gist)

ipnon 5y ago

We have a "women and children first" reflex. We seem to draw extraordinary attention to the troubles of beautiful, young women. Call it "damsel in distress."

ipaddr 5y ago

You get more threats posting about Trump pro or con these days. Using a platform like fansonly allows the star to moderate and use the platform to guard against safety issues. Fansonly is pay only which limits the spam can help identify the crazy.

throwawayboise 5y ago

We used to say, "play stupid games, win stupid prizes."

aniforprez 5y ago
Seems a bit harsh to call it "stupid". Sex work is work that will always have demand. It sucks that society looks down on it and the market for it is so skewed towards creeps that people feel unsafe doing it and face so much harassment when found out
- EvilEy3 5y ago
  > Sex work is work that will always have demand Sure, doesn't make it a good or socially acceptable job though.
  - tremon 5y ago
    Neither is garbage bin collection*, but there's still people doing it. *insert locally-relevant pariah job here
    - BoxOfRain 5y ago
      This is actually a really interesting concept, I was channel-flipping once and saw a programme about recycling where people doing things like retail work were taken to a recycling centre to learn about the process doing the job first hand. One of the girls on the programme's first reaction to the line where rubbish was sorted was along the lines of "I'm not a dirty person like you, why do I have to touch the rubbish?". Bearing in mind she would have probably have been paid less and was from the same area and background as the people she was dismissing as "dirty". The way we stigmatise "dirty" jobs is a bit weird, in the above scenario the "dirty" job would have likely paid better and is definitely more essential to society. It really stuck with me how the girl in the programme didn't just dismiss the job as dirty, but the person doing the job too as though taking a better paid but physically less pleasant job is somehow a dishonourable thing to do. This isn't a class thing either, both people in this scenario were from a working-class background so I don't think this is an issue of class-based snobbery.
    - mcosta 5y ago
      Garbage bin collection is more useful to society than boobs pics.
- megous 5y ago
  Society empowers the creeps this way.
- zthrowaway 5y ago
  Welcome to reality.

standardUser 5y ago

I know a good number of people in their 30's and 40's that do various types of sex work and I don't think they are deluding themselves about the risks. But it's easy to forget that most people engaging in this type of work are in their late teens and 20's and though I hate to stereotype, we know that a lot of people in those age ranges are less skilled at assessing risk and thinking longer term. The solution is probably education and removing stigma.

harambae 5y ago

While I'm not a heartless person and what happened in this article's story sounds both terrible and illegal, it also strikes me as a "comes with the territory" type of situation. There are downsides to most high paying jobs, otherwise everyone would do them (and then they wouldn't pay as well). It reminds me in some ways of "Locked Up Abroad" episodes where the person is easily making incredibly money smuggling drugs from southeastern asia and then is shocked when they are given an extremely harsh prison sentence. Like yes, there's a reason why a lot of other people didn't want to do this. The hourly premium was there for a reason. There's a downside. (Obviously it's not identical because Onlyfans is legal, but you get the gist)