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> social circles are very clique-y and exclusive This rings true to my experience as well. I only managed to make friends with some fellow engineers after livi
by analyst74 5y ago
> social circles are very clique-y and exclusive
This rings true to my experience as well. I only managed to make friends with some fellow engineers after living there for a few years.
And it's not for lack of trying, I joined sports teams, wide variety of meetups, social clubs and tried to chat to strangers I encounter.
It seems people are generally not interested in adding another engineer to their friend circle, except fellow engineers. It's quite ironic because my interests are actually more athletic and artistic than geeky.
- legerdemain 5y agoI've had the opposite experience in the Bay Area, on average. I'd follow the typical advice people get, which is to create opportunities for serendipitous meeting. To say, I'd try to set up group dinners and invite a bunch of different engineer friends to them, only to get a bunch of responses like "I don't want to meet people I don't know already" and "I have enough friends, my social circle is full."
- imustbeevil 5y agoMaybe I'm missing something but, "cliquey" and "my social circle is full" are the opposite of opposites.
- legerdemain 5y agoThe opposition that you failed to notice was between your comment that "people are generally not interested in adding another engineer to their friend circle" and my comment that my engineer friends seem really loath to interact with people they don't already know.
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