Couldn't agree more. I'll offer my own generalization. We generally feel what close ones are feeling, whether it's verbalised or not. If you are too ashamed to

Couldn't agree more. I'll offer my own generalization. We generally feel what close ones are feeling, whether it's verbalised or not. If you are too ashamed to share something, or too scared, or whatever, what the other feels is exactly that feeling that you're trying to hide. Maybe you wanted to protect that close one from the feeling, but instead you're teaching him that that feeling cannot be accepted or transformed into something good. That feeling is something to avoid, to hide from, to numb yourself to. And, a final obvious point, it's not about the actual worldy situation, but about how we act in it. This applies to anything you can't accept.