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I, a man, "foolishly" told a female coworker with the same position what raise and salary I got. I had negotiated 10% more pay than the base offer, she hadn't.

I, a man, "foolishly" told a female coworker with the same position what raise and salary I got. I had negotiated 10% more pay than the base offer, she hadn't. She went to HR and dragged my name and salary through these proceedings, arguing a woman was getting paid less to do the same job as a man. Nevermind I had a masters and was faster and more versatile as a worker...she got a much bigger raise than I did so her pay ended up equal to mine, despite lack of negotiating or higher Ed or better performance. HR responded by sternly telling me I should not discuss salaries. Why not? So you can underpay people? There's literally zero reason other than that for us to not discuss it. The CEO literally owns a dozen Tesla's, pure unadulterated greed on his part.

smogcutter 5y ago
I mean, it sounds like she used the information as leverage to negotiate a better salary for herself, which is exactly what you’re complaining she didn’t do.
rufus_foreman 5y ago
>> HR responded by sternly telling me I should not discuss salaries. Why not? Doesn't your own anecdote show exactly why not? You make the same amount of money that you did before this happened, but now you are obviously angry that someone you consider less qualified now makes the same amount as you, you seem angry that you got dragged into the discussion, and you also seem angry that your CEO has more money than you. Comparison is the thief of joy.
dasil003 5y ago
I can't tell from this comment whether you believe her salary should be equal to yours or not.
throwwwaway69 5y ago
Them telling you not to discuss salary is super illegal.
setr 5y ago
> lack of … higher Ed or better performance. It sounds like now you’re being relatively underpaid — if they value her lack of skills at the same level of your having skills, something’s gone wrong. In fact, according to your definition, this is exactly a scenario where a pay disparity “should” exist. Perhaps you should both be getting paid better, but there should be a difference

smogcutter 5y ago

I mean, it sounds like she used the information as leverage to negotiate a better salary for herself, which is exactly what you’re complaining she didn’t do.

rufus_foreman 5y ago

>> HR responded by sternly telling me I should not discuss salaries. Why not? Doesn't your own anecdote show exactly why not? You make the same amount of money that you did before this happened, but now you are obviously angry that someone you consider less qualified now makes the same amount as you, you seem angry that you got dragged into the discussion, and you also seem angry that your CEO has more money than you. Comparison is the thief of joy.

dasil003 5y ago

I can't tell from this comment whether you believe her salary should be equal to yours or not.

throwwwaway69 5y ago

Them telling you not to discuss salary is super illegal.

setr 5y ago

> lack of … higher Ed or better performance. It sounds like now you’re being relatively underpaid — if they value her lack of skills at the same level of your having skills, something’s gone wrong. In fact, according to your definition, this is exactly a scenario where a pay disparity “should” exist. Perhaps you should both be getting paid better, but there should be a difference