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> In social situations I struggle to let go and have to put enormous amounts of energy to act ‘normal’, yet most people don’t even pick up on it. Have you trie

by vosper 5y ago

> In social situations I struggle to let go and have to put enormous amounts of energy to act ‘normal’, yet most people don’t even pick up on it. Have you tried having a couple of drinks? There’s a reason they call alcohol a “social lubricant”

ZephyrBlu 5y ago
Only a couple of drinks is unlikely to reduce "enormous amounts of energy" that much.
the_only_law 5y ago
It’s a curse and a blessing. The inhibition makes it’s much easier to comfortably converse with a stranger, although the quality of discussion is likely to be trash (I can barely enunciate technical things verbally sober, and mostly sound like an idiot trying to after a few beers). The inhibition is also likely to make me discuss things that will give others a negative opinion of me (over sharing, etc.). Perhaps less of an issue when everyone in the conversation is drinking, less so otherwise.
- HeckFeck 5y ago
  > The inhibition is also likely to make me discuss things that will give others a negative opinion of me (over sharing, etc.). The 'liquid courage' brings out the inner chum for too many of us. Which, I think, is simply a sign that there aren't enough people around with whom we can have the necessary deep personal conversations. There's something of a chicken-and-egg effect that can happen here, where you need those conversations to advance and find better people, but have no decent people around because you've not had those conversations. Maybe this is why most people would rather drown the conscience in noise, like TV, music, endless diversions. It's easier than facing the hard questions, doing the hard work of seeking others. But surely, needs exist because they can and must be met. If one opts to delay necessary attention, one will pay one in the long term. Life itself has a way of collecting its debts.
beezischillin 5y ago
Molly was the closest thing that made me feel how it would've been if I grew up different :)

by vosper 5y ago

ZephyrBlu 5y ago

Only a couple of drinks is unlikely to reduce "enormous amounts of energy" that much.

the_only_law 5y ago

It’s a curse and a blessing. The inhibition makes it’s much easier to comfortably converse with a stranger, although the quality of discussion is likely to be trash (I can barely enunciate technical things verbally sober, and mostly sound like an idiot trying to after a few beers). The inhibition is also likely to make me discuss things that will give others a negative opinion of me (over sharing, etc.). Perhaps less of an issue when everyone in the conversation is drinking, less so otherwise.

HeckFeck 5y ago
> The inhibition is also likely to make me discuss things that will give others a negative opinion of me (over sharing, etc.). The 'liquid courage' brings out the inner chum for too many of us. Which, I think, is simply a sign that there aren't enough people around with whom we can have the necessary deep personal conversations. There's something of a chicken-and-egg effect that can happen here, where you need those conversations to advance and find better people, but have no decent people around because you've not had those conversations. Maybe this is why most people would rather drown the conscience in noise, like TV, music, endless diversions. It's easier than facing the hard questions, doing the hard work of seeking others. But surely, needs exist because they can and must be met. If one opts to delay necessary attention, one will pay one in the long term. Life itself has a way of collecting its debts.

beezischillin 5y ago

Molly was the closest thing that made me feel how it would've been if I grew up different :)