I don't think you have to reject the churchgoers to reject the church. Some of the people I feel closest to are devoutly religious. When we eat together I pray

I don't think you have to reject the churchgoers to reject the church. Some of the people I feel closest to are devoutly religious. When we eat together I pray with them as a matter of respecting their tradition and participating in the culture, and it is an enjoyable thing to do. The church has gone out of its way to be unwelcoming to many people, and I just don't want to be part of it. I've been to one church service where the preacher spent a large fraction of the sermon vitriolically condemning atheists. I'm not going to argue with him, but I'm also not going back for more. I'm not trying to mess up anyone else's tradition, but if churches are shrinking and losing power I don't think that is necessarily a bad thing.