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> I can't tell you how many people whose views or mannerisms I hate, and who I can't stand being around. Forcing me to eat with anyone, let alone strangers, wou

> I can't tell you how many people whose views or mannerisms I hate, and who I can't stand being around. Forcing me to eat with anyone, let alone strangers, would only make me dislike them more and cause tension. I think you are either an unusual outlier or are very much underestimating how well you can get along with people different from you when sharing a meal with them in person. People are not who they appear to be online.

silicon2401 5y ago
I can get along well if I have to, but I was responding to a comment that talked about these forced dinners being good for society. I get drained enough getting along when in day to day life, which is minimal because I have built a life where I can be very secluded and avoid social interaction unless I want it. Now stick me in these forced dinners and I'll lose a lot of mental health, just like working in an office is a significant and constant drain on my well-being (hence why the pandemic and lockdowns have been the best times of my life, by far).
watwut 5y ago
You never spend dinner with people who spent that time being condescending or insulting something close to you? You can get along with them easily. But then it ends and you are happy it ended and never want to be there again. Because getting along with them requires you swallowing all above, pretending it is ok. Acvepting situation in which they talk and you are silent or submissive.
- munificent 5y ago
  > You never spend dinner with people who spent that time being condescending or insulting something close to you? Oh, sure. I've probably also inadvertently been the one who was condescending or insulting before too. People are fallible and some fraction of them are pretty shitty. But my experience is that the fraction is low enough that it's worth rolling the dice to find new connections with the larger fraction of people that are generally pretty good. I can take an insult or a boring conversation. > Acvepting situation in which they talk and you are silent or submissive. I think human interaction is a lot more varied than a binary choice between arguing or rolling over.

silicon2401 5y ago

I can get along well if I have to, but I was responding to a comment that talked about these forced dinners being good for society. I get drained enough getting along when in day to day life, which is minimal because I have built a life where I can be very secluded and avoid social interaction unless I want it. Now stick me in these forced dinners and I'll lose a lot of mental health, just like working in an office is a significant and constant drain on my well-being (hence why the pandemic and lockdowns have been the best times of my life, by far).

watwut 5y ago

You never spend dinner with people who spent that time being condescending or insulting something close to you? You can get along with them easily. But then it ends and you are happy it ended and never want to be there again. Because getting along with them requires you swallowing all above, pretending it is ok. Acvepting situation in which they talk and you are silent or submissive.

munificent 5y ago
> You never spend dinner with people who spent that time being condescending or insulting something close to you? Oh, sure. I've probably also inadvertently been the one who was condescending or insulting before too. People are fallible and some fraction of them are pretty shitty. But my experience is that the fraction is low enough that it's worth rolling the dice to find new connections with the larger fraction of people that are generally pretty good. I can take an insult or a boring conversation. > Acvepting situation in which they talk and you are silent or submissive. I think human interaction is a lot more varied than a binary choice between arguing or rolling over.