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This article doesn't go far enough to hold parents accountable for their actions IMHO. It's completely justified to go 'no contact' with a parent who was physi

This article doesn't go far enough to hold parents accountable for their actions IMHO. It's completely justified to go 'no contact' with a parent who was physically abusive, who is homophobic, etc. I bristle at the implication that parents are owed anything. My relationship with my parents is based upon mutual respect as adults. Had they not at least made an effort to reconcile, we would not be on speaking terms today.

mike00632 5y ago
My thoughts exactly. The article seema to intentionally taboo homophobia (maybe dismissing it under the category of "identity") when that is one of the biggest sources of homeless youths in the US. I refuse to see parents who disown their gay kids as victims.
- starik36 5y ago
  > one of the biggest sources of homeless youths in the US What is your source of information on this claim? I am reading this and don't see anything. https://www.ncsl.org/research/human-services/homeless-and-runaway-youth.aspx https://www.ncsl.org/research/human-services/homeless-and-ru...
  - wing-_-nuts 5y ago
    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homelessness_among_LGBT_youth_in_the_United_States#:~:text=7%20References-,Prevalence,between%2011%20and%2040%20percent https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homelessness_among_LGBT_youth_....
spideymans 5y ago
A lot of parents unfortunately believe that respect is a one-way street.
- Domenic_S 5y ago
  I don't remember where I read it, but this is a big description of my childhood experience: > Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”. And sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”. They think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay.

mike00632 5y ago

My thoughts exactly. The article seema to intentionally taboo homophobia (maybe dismissing it under the category of "identity") when that is one of the biggest sources of homeless youths in the US. I refuse to see parents who disown their gay kids as victims.

starik36 5y ago
> one of the biggest sources of homeless youths in the US What is your source of information on this claim? I am reading this and don't see anything. https://www.ncsl.org/research/human-services/homeless-and-runaway-youth.aspx https://www.ncsl.org/research/human-services/homeless-and-ru...
- wing-_-nuts 5y ago
  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homelessness_among_LGBT_youth_in_the_United_States#:~:text=7%20References-,Prevalence,between%2011%20and%2040%20percent https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homelessness_among_LGBT_youth_....

spideymans 5y ago

A lot of parents unfortunately believe that respect is a one-way street.

Domenic_S 5y ago
I don't remember where I read it, but this is a big description of my childhood experience: > Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”. And sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”. They think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay.