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Odd, I was going to comment on how poor the communication with his partner was in the updated post. I realize he'd written the 2021 update after their separatio
by and0 5y ago
Odd, I was going to comment on how poor the communication with his partner was in the updated post. I realize he'd written the 2021 update after their separation (hard to tell if these individual sections were real-time but even worse if so) but what was happening was so obvious when he first started to mention the issues, and he described her so harshly and without empathy, like she had some bug that needed to be "fixed" and he wasn't bothering to relate.
- SavantIdiot 5y agoI think the communication was good and the understanding was lacking. Talking != understanding. And sometimes talking is really really hard when you know it might lead to a minefield.
- CleverLikeAnOx 5y agoIn the post-FIRE relationships disconnect post, it was jarring how he went from having what I saw as a reasonably well communicated discussion to "she couldn't get her head around us being different." Seems like the understood each other, but had different priorities. Each also seemed to have a bit of disdain for the other's way of thinking. He saw her desires as vain and felt like she didn't understand his ideal of freedom. She saw his freedom as stagnation.