No idea why you are downvoted here, this is exactly what I have to do (though maybe a little less extreme than you), and it's a learned skill for some. I have

No idea why you are downvoted here, this is exactly what I have to do (though maybe a little less extreme than you), and it's a learned skill for some. I have just always erred on the side of either being my own boss through self employment and an in-demand skill, or early on by working jobs that require extreme competency or that had a fast pace. I definitely understand exactly what you mean with transactional language and command/interrogation (I ask people to rephrase things alot when I want to confirm what they are trying to get across but aren't directly stating it).