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The author's reflections after stopping using emoji: "In the end, I found myself adding a lot of exclamation marks, "hahaha", and writing more sentences to bet
by throwawaycuriou 5y ago
The author's reflections after stopping using emoji:
"In the end, I found myself adding a lot of exclamation marks, "hahaha", and writing more sentences to better communicate my mood. The need to better convey my messages forced me to have a deeper understanding what I was trying to communicate in the first place. Sometimes, a heart means “I love you”, “I miss you”, “I hope you’ll feel better soon”, “I love what you’re saying”, etc. Was I expecting my interlocutors to guess the exact meaning? I’m happy that it forced me to phrase my thoughts, look deeper into them, better identify and express them. I had to write "Thank you" or "That's great!" instead of adding a reaction emoji under a Slack message, Twitter DM, or Discord message, and I like to believe that those words carried more value than one more thumbs up added to the pile."
This helped me make a connection to a larger phenomenon in changing speech, something which I struggle with. Emojis a way of communicating with loose precision. There are also analogous ways to do so while using words. And there are speakers in their daily speech which greatly lean into the saftey of loose precision to the point of subterfurge and agression.
A 'like' softens all opinion. A 'you know' coerces the listener to agree. A 'whatever' implies others' priorities are misplaced. An 'uh' or 'um' is a don't interrupt me! Overreliance on ambiguous prounouns. 'Stuff' or 'Thing'.
I find these mechanisms off putting. They sometimes correlate with paranoia, esteem issues, or sociopathy. So I try to avoid such speakers if possible, since I feel like an asshole to point it out.
It's ok to wait until your thoughts are formed. It's ok to be incorrect. Pick your target and try to hit it. If you communicate with loose precision or emoji you inhibit building knowledge together.
- thaumasiotes 5y ago> Sometimes, a heart means “I love you”, “I miss you”, “I hope you’ll feel better soon”, “I love what you’re saying”, etc. Was I expecting my interlocutors to guess the exact meaning? I’m happy that it forced me to phrase my thoughts, look deeper into them, better identify and express them. Actually, I think the ambiguity can be an advantage. One interesting thing I noticed in communicating in a foreign language is that sometimes, I'll feel like either of two meanings might be appropriate -- and the other language has a word that might have either sense. It always feels like a big win to use that word when that happens. On the other hand, I used to message someone frequently who would use really weird emoji like a pig face, and who steadfastly refused to ever explain what any of them meant. That got annoying.
- KMnO4 5y ago> Sometimes, a heart means “I love you”, “I miss you”, “I hope you’ll feel better soon”, “I love what you’re saying”, etc. Was I expecting my interlocutors to guess the exact meaning? Actually yes. That’s one of the lovely parts of language. You don’t need to be explicit to convey the correct meaning. Consider: A: My cat passed away. B: <3 A: I bought you chocolate! B: <3 A: Only one more week and I’ll be home! B: <3 A: I think I’m going to start working out again. B: <3 I don’t think any normal person would have trouble interpreting those.