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I liked the model in this blogpost. https://status451.com/2016/01/06/splain-it-to-me/ https://status451.com/2016/01/06/splain-it-to-me/ It discusses making corr
by rgoulter 5y ago
I liked the model in this blogpost.
https://status451.com/2016/01/06/splain-it-to-me/ https://status451.com/2016/01/06/splain-it-to-me/
It discusses making corrections. Some people interpret a correction as demonstrating superiority. Others interpret it as providing information.
Compared to OP: For those who prefer tactful statements: using 'tact' and avoiding speaking directly avoids 'demonstrating superiority'; but tact-less statements would appear to be 'demonstrating superiority'. But for those who prefer information, adding tact just dilutes and slows things down.
- citrin_ru 5y agoIMHO tact is more about how than what. You can make a correction as a statement which cannot be disputed and not supported (by facts, arguments) or you can make a correction and be ready to explain why you think so and be open to being mistaken.
- karmakaze 5y agoI think this is saying the same thing. It would be more efficient to say it bluntly, then if necessary ask for additional info, rather than front-loading all the extra that just slow things down. I know I get frustrated when people take so long to get to their point.
- jvvw 5y agoThis reminds me of Deborah Tannen's book You Just Don't Understand. She's a professor of linguistics and the book talks a great deal about using language to demonstrate superiority vs using language to connect.
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- jozvolskyef 5y agoBrilliant article. Explains why I find myself frustrated with people who take my well-intentioned feedback and try to retaliate against it as if it were some kind of a game.