I completely appreciate this. I don't want my social preferences to drag people into a dialog they're uncomfortable with. My preferences should dominate no mo

I completely appreciate this. I don't want my social preferences to drag people into a dialog they're uncomfortable with. My preferences should dominate no more than anyone else's. Some of us would welcome it as it seems you know. To manage the divide, I throw out invitations and ask questions in ways that let the other person select for their comfort level. Every once in awhile I find someone willing to keep ratcheting and I think we both find it gratifying and interesting.