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You are right people shouldn't be prescribed labels. You think people are limiting themselves because of labels. Isn't it the other way around? People act in su

by fumar 5y ago

You are right people shouldn't be prescribed labels. You think people are limiting themselves because of labels. Isn't it the other way around? People act in such a way that they believe a label describes their personality or behavioral pattern? I think you are the one mislabeling people. Being an introvert doesn't mean social skills are low. You might work with or be friends with strong introverts and have no idea. There is also this idea that as an extrovert you have great social skills. I know plenty of people who crave social experiences, attention, or constant companionship that have poor social skills. You know them – they may say hurtful things, claim their own jokes as funny and laugh at them, disregard other people's feelings, lack the ability to control their vocalizations or comments, get in people's faces, create distractions, try to control conversations, etc. You get the point. Should those "strong extroverts" work hard at improving their social skills? Sometimes that means not talking or seeking solace in their own thoughts before entering a an existing social gathering.

jlokier 5y ago
Thank you for highlighting that extrovert behaviour can be accompanied by poor social skills and introverts can be highly skilled socially. It seems to be a moderately common assumption in discussions like these that the extrovert is the one with social skills and the introvert finds them difficult, but the reverse is often true. Think about someone who is often out and seems to be consistently loud, boisterous and showing poor social awareness to the point of irritating others in social settings. That's a sign of poor social skills that I'd associate with extroversion. Compare with someone who is quiet, thoughtful, and rarely seen, but when they are seen they seem to be caring, interesting and listen thoughtfully and engage with each person they talk with, leaving a positive impression each time. That's high social skill.

by fumar 5y ago

jlokier 5y ago

Thank you for highlighting that extrovert behaviour can be accompanied by poor social skills and introverts can be highly skilled socially. It seems to be a moderately common assumption in discussions like these that the extrovert is the one with social skills and the introvert finds them difficult, but the reverse is often true. Think about someone who is often out and seems to be consistently loud, boisterous and showing poor social awareness to the point of irritating others in social settings. That's a sign of poor social skills that I'd associate with extroversion. Compare with someone who is quiet, thoughtful, and rarely seen, but when they are seen they seem to be caring, interesting and listen thoughtfully and engage with each person they talk with, leaving a positive impression each time. That's high social skill.