I'm of the age where friends are getting married off and children will be in the picture soon. At least I should be, in my circle I don't see much of that happ

I'm of the age where friends are getting married off and children will be in the picture soon. At least I should be, in my circle I don't see much of that happening at all. There's very little societal pressure towards marriage, and children are practically seen as a luxury item. Either you planned and saved up for them or you got one on an impulse and are now stuck making the payments. I'd like to have kids personally, but it feels like doing so would condemn them and myself to poverty