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I think I was close to burnout at the end of my PhD and it went away the day I defended. That was probably due to a lot of factors but most importantly I was n
by jraph 5y ago
I think I was close to burnout at the end of my PhD and it went away the day I defended.
That was probably due to a lot of factors but most importantly I was not feeling well with my advisors and I did not believe in what I was doing (though I could present it in a convincing way).
I won't fix your burnout but here are things to check:
- Do you enjoy working with the people you work with?
- Do you believe in what you do? You can do any technically interesting thing in the world, but if it has no meaning for you, or worse, you think it is harmful or works against your values, that's a way to burn out pretty quickly.
- Do you really like what you do? (that's not the same question)
- is there a relationship in which you don't feel that well? Find out why, fix it or end it. Careful, if you are burnt out you could be seeing it from a pessimistic perspective.
Allow yourself to be unproductive / inefficient in your free time and to enjoy it. Take some time for yourself. You cannot really enjoy things you do usually, but maybe you can focus on making your wife, friends, family happy if you can help it, because it can be very rewarding. Don't be hard on yourself, you are not a god (afaik).
Try to rest. I have sleeping issues, I find it very hard to turn off my brain, but listening to interesting things while trying to sleep works pretty well for me, it is a good distraction. Being tired is shitty.
Maybe try something new, maybe learn to play music? It's hard, takes a lot of work, and a lot of time, but it is something you can take refuge in. And learning it is nothing like learning a new programming language or a new framework so you might find out interesting things about yourself.
I need meaning. Maybe you too? If so, seek meaning somewhere or everywhere in your life. Take time to think. This might lead you to a new job with a lower income or less technically challenging, but in which you believe and which relates to your values.
In your quest of meaning, you might end up finding out that life is quite meaningless and has no goal. If so, you could conclude that you are free and that the best you can do is to fully enjoy life within the limits set by your values :-)
- adepressedthrow 5y ago> Allow yourself to be unproductive / inefficient in your free time and to enjoy it. Take some time for yourself. Other than potential physical issues with my body and mind, this is probably my biggest issue. Somehow I've never learned how to relax and how not to min/max everything for productivity. As a child/early teen, I used to despise sleep because it was a "waste of time" and I wasn't being "productive". Now I constantly feel bad if I'm performing at 100%, which results in me feeling terrible after a week of work where I didn't accomplish 90% of what I wanted, but I still blew my management away with what I did (not always, but often). I think I'm still working through the unstructured period of just stopping work, but I'm hoping that once I start to really settle into this free time, I will learn how to slow down and actually relax. Sit down, read a book, and don't worry about how quickly I'm reading, what projects I should be working, what I have to do later in the day. For the rest of your comment, I do think I genuinely enjoy my current position and its goals. It's not something with high morals, but it's valuable, OSS (very important to me), and I can have a huge impact in how people interact with computers (kind of my main focus with my work). I have poor relationships with my parents, but I don't communicate with them often, so it's not really a big deal.
- techcode 5y agoHow much of your burnout do you think came from kind of flywheel where you feel bad/guilt/stress for not delivering 100%, causing even worse stress so you can deliver even less? And perhaps also guilt from being behind on work/projects preventing you from relaxing/enjoying previously fun things ...etc
- techcode 5y agoAs OP wrote - even things that were previously fun/engaging recently haven't been. So reevaluating such deep life questions (Do you believe/like what you do) during early stages of burnout is a bad idea.