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> I would talk to my team/boss and ask for time off. Serious time off like 3+ months. If they really think you are worth it, they should give that to you. Make

> I would talk to my team/boss and ask for time off. Serious time off like 3+ months. If they really think you are worth it, they should give that to you. Make it unpaid but tell them you want to come back. You may not though and that should be ok. Regardless, do it for yourself. I've been on an unpaid leave for a little over a month. I thought the same as you; that if I'm worth it, they should be accepting of the break. However, they've repeatedly bothered me about getting doctors' notes (which my doctor obliged) and made it clear that if I was not covered under FMLA (I'm in the US), they would _have_ to let me go. This in and of itself makes me want to quit, because it's disingenuous to say that I'm one of the most valuable engineers, then talk about firing and rehiring me when I want to take this leave. > If you can quit and feel the need, do it. You don't need to answer to anyone except yourself. You may not know if quitting will work but if that is what you THINK you need right now, you should do it. This is reassuring, thank you. I'm not sure that it's the _correct_ advice, but it's nice to see :P

trilinearnz 5y ago
> This in and of itself makes me want to quit, because it's disingenuous to say that I'm one of the most valuable engineers, then talk about firing and rehiring me when I want to take this leave. I agree that this is a red flag. Unfortunately in work life, companies can say one thing and do another, and it looks like you've experienced that here. I think you have done the right thing by taking time off. My advice would be to seek counselling and ask about medication to help treat your depression. Even if it doesn't solve it completely, it should at least give you a bit of breathing room to afford you a broader perspective. From there, you can hopefully make the best step forward. Best of luck to you, in all sincerity. You sound very talented and capable, and I'm sure that latent skill will serve you well in any future role regardless of the temporary setbacks you may encounter.

trilinearnz 5y ago

> This in and of itself makes me want to quit, because it's disingenuous to say that I'm one of the most valuable engineers, then talk about firing and rehiring me when I want to take this leave. I agree that this is a red flag. Unfortunately in work life, companies can say one thing and do another, and it looks like you've experienced that here. I think you have done the right thing by taking time off. My advice would be to seek counselling and ask about medication to help treat your depression. Even if it doesn't solve it completely, it should at least give you a bit of breathing room to afford you a broader perspective. From there, you can hopefully make the best step forward. Best of luck to you, in all sincerity. You sound very talented and capable, and I'm sure that latent skill will serve you well in any future role regardless of the temporary setbacks you may encounter.