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I have caught myself riding the snooze - alarm clock pattern. Its my favourite part of the day, the 'waking up in warm bed' time. When I am just barely conscio

I have caught myself riding the snooze - alarm clock pattern. Its my favourite part of the day, the 'waking up in warm bed' time. When I am just barely conscious and its feels good to be in warm bed - it feel blissful. When I wake up in the morning I will hit 10min snooze, just enough to fall asleep and wake up. Just to get more of that feeling - because I know thats the only time I will get it. I am doing it for an hour on weekdays and often for hours on the weekends. I just can't force myself out of bed, out of that state where it doesn't feel bad. I talked to people who are going through the same. Some skip work to stay in bed because they cant do it anymore. I did it few times too, and I am terrified I might slip into that state of apathy. That fear is the only thing that keeps me going, I can only hope this fear will stay. I dont have any wisdom or advice for anyone going through this, I just wanted to vent my thoughts and say that you are not alone in this, stay strong.

jw1224 5y ago
You will probably receive advice like "move the alarm clock to the other side of the room!". This kind of advice is well-meaning, but entirely misses the point. To quote the article: > "Escaping the depression requires doing things I'm too depressed to do." Good luck.
- me_me_me 5y ago
  >> "Escaping the depression requires doing things I'm too depressed to do." Yes that is definitely true. Thing that shook me a bit to get a better grip on reality and fight my depression was a line fro Bojack the horseman. >> Don't fetishise your own sadness. Its crazy how your mind works, and how depression obscures and bends the reality. But its a sickness and not a character trait, you can't let it define you. > Good luck. Thanks :)
dnh44 5y ago
Your comment really resonated with me. I love the feeling too and would set the alarm for even earlier just so I could snooze for longer. What I eventually realised though is that doing this really fucks with your last couple hours of sleep which would make me tired for the rest of the day. What I do now if I crave that blissful "in bed" feeling is just go to bed ridiculously early, like 12 hours before actually having to get up. What I found is that laying in bed half awake 2 or 3 hours before I have to get up is ten times better than hitting the snooze button every 10 minutes. Additionally I get out of bed actually feeling physically good now so I've got a lot more energy throughout the day. At first I would just sleep 10 to 12 hours, but after a while I'd start waking up naturally 7 to 8 hours after going to bed.
Chris2048 5y ago
Funnily enough, whatever I set my alarm sound to (using my smartphone, so it's some kind of chime) I grow to hate. There are certain standard alarm sounds that mildly annoy/trigger me whenever they play, just as they remind me of that..

jw1224 5y ago

You will probably receive advice like "move the alarm clock to the other side of the room!". This kind of advice is well-meaning, but entirely misses the point. To quote the article: > "Escaping the depression requires doing things I'm too depressed to do." Good luck.

me_me_me 5y ago
>> "Escaping the depression requires doing things I'm too depressed to do." Yes that is definitely true. Thing that shook me a bit to get a better grip on reality and fight my depression was a line fro Bojack the horseman. >> Don't fetishise your own sadness. Its crazy how your mind works, and how depression obscures and bends the reality. But its a sickness and not a character trait, you can't let it define you. > Good luck. Thanks :)

dnh44 5y ago

Your comment really resonated with me. I love the feeling too and would set the alarm for even earlier just so I could snooze for longer. What I eventually realised though is that doing this really fucks with your last couple hours of sleep which would make me tired for the rest of the day. What I do now if I crave that blissful "in bed" feeling is just go to bed ridiculously early, like 12 hours before actually having to get up. What I found is that laying in bed half awake 2 or 3 hours before I have to get up is ten times better than hitting the snooze button every 10 minutes. Additionally I get out of bed actually feeling physically good now so I've got a lot more energy throughout the day. At first I would just sleep 10 to 12 hours, but after a while I'd start waking up naturally 7 to 8 hours after going to bed.

Chris2048 5y ago

Funnily enough, whatever I set my alarm sound to (using my smartphone, so it's some kind of chime) I grow to hate. There are certain standard alarm sounds that mildly annoy/trigger me whenever they play, just as they remind me of that..