On raising kids, Vonnegut wrote: "you have to be kind". Economic reasons might be a large factor, but they are not the only one. There is a lot of this even in

On raising kids, Vonnegut wrote: "you have to be kind". Economic reasons might be a large factor, but they are not the only one. There is a lot of this even in places where there is much less competition. People want to see their kids succeed, and that alone can trigger a lot of things. I am not completely innocent, although nothing egregious because I know that reacting to your fears will mostly end up being a self fulfilling prophecy. But even knowing this it can get the best of you if you see them failing at something out of laziness too many times. If I have a "job" with my kids, it's to give them an opportunity to find their passion, but this is much more than shipping them off to some practice. On the other hand looking at it as a job is highly likely the wrong way.