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I'd love to, but... All my friends are like this too. Time off from work is no fun when all your friends have glued themselves to a monitor. It's impossible

I'd love to, but... All my friends are like this too. Time off from work is no fun when all your friends have glued themselves to a monitor. It's impossible to even convince my most sun-loving friends with secure jobs to take a beach day. I don't find meaning in traveling alone so... drown myself in work it is.

hughrr 5y ago
Find some new friends. Seriously. I know that sounds hard but your friendship choices always end up aligning with your work as you get older and that's not healthy. Literally you work to the work calendar. Eventually you get to the point that the first calendar you look at is the work one every time. At that point you are owned. Been there. Was stuck in the rut for about 4 years. Meetup is a great place to do that. Just turn up at random events outside of your usual comfort zone outside of your usual calendar cycle. Amazing the variety of people out there who are interesting and friendly.
nineplay 5y ago
Travel alone. Please. Everyone I know who has done it has found it worthwhile. It's easy to find dozens of excuses to avoid going into the unknown. Don't let them control you.
- pwinnski 5y ago
  YES! I was terrified to do anything alone before my mid-life divorce, but now I realize that traveling alone is absolutely amazing. Seeing movies alone is fantastic. Doing things alone is a radically different experience than doing them with other people, and I love both, for different reasons.
nickd2001 5y ago
This is genuinely sad. Is there nothing you can do to prise them away from their monitors? Maybe you need to find some new friends too?
goodpoint 5y ago
> drown myself in work it is. This is physically unsustainable. Our bodies and our minds are not built to sit at a desk and work 60 ours a week. Ignore that and you'll get all sort of issue ranging from back pain to mental illness. We don't need lavish vacations in fancy places. We need to stretch every hour, go for a walk in the park every other day, some hours for cultural and social life every day.

hughrr 5y ago

Find some new friends. Seriously. I know that sounds hard but your friendship choices always end up aligning with your work as you get older and that's not healthy. Literally you work to the work calendar. Eventually you get to the point that the first calendar you look at is the work one every time. At that point you are owned. Been there. Was stuck in the rut for about 4 years. Meetup is a great place to do that. Just turn up at random events outside of your usual comfort zone outside of your usual calendar cycle. Amazing the variety of people out there who are interesting and friendly.

nineplay 5y ago

Travel alone. Please. Everyone I know who has done it has found it worthwhile. It's easy to find dozens of excuses to avoid going into the unknown. Don't let them control you.

pwinnski 5y ago
YES! I was terrified to do anything alone before my mid-life divorce, but now I realize that traveling alone is absolutely amazing. Seeing movies alone is fantastic. Doing things alone is a radically different experience than doing them with other people, and I love both, for different reasons.

nickd2001 5y ago

This is genuinely sad. Is there nothing you can do to prise them away from their monitors? Maybe you need to find some new friends too?

goodpoint 5y ago

> drown myself in work it is. This is physically unsustainable. Our bodies and our minds are not built to sit at a desk and work 60 ours a week. Ignore that and you'll get all sort of issue ranging from back pain to mental illness. We don't need lavish vacations in fancy places. We need to stretch every hour, go for a walk in the park every other day, some hours for cultural and social life every day.