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People think I am crazy when I says this but I think generally physically "punishment" should mostly be reserved for toddlers and only when in situations where

People think I am crazy when I says this but I think generally physically "punishment" should mostly be reserved for toddlers and only when in situations where failure to learn the "lesson" could be very dangerous to the child. For example if you see a toddler sticking something in an electrical socket (a very common occurrence because they see adults do it) I think it is very appropriate to sharply smack the child's hand so it stings a bit. It is important for that child's safety to assocate sticking stuff into outlets with pain and there is no way you can explain the risks to a toddler. Once I child has the ability to speak and has basic reasoning I see very little if any use for physical "punishment"

xyzzy123 5y ago
I'm not going for aversion or punishment, it's more like... physical communication. I think what is going on in my son's brain is that while I am trying to remain calm and tell him to stop flinging the door open and slamming it shut, oblivious to a nearby 1yo, is that what he actually hears is something like the charlie brown "wah wah wah" noise. His hearing is fine but he can be very inattentive to speech. I found myself needing a way to get through to him, with restraint and removal as escalation and a proper discussion when I actually have his attention. I support anti smacking laws as doing more good than harm but I do feel conflicted about being a hypocrite. I'd like to be better.
- anoncake 5y ago
  While I wouldn't consider what you do violence, doesn't something like putting your hand on his shoulder work?
goodpoint 5y ago
> People think I am crazy Perhaps there's a reason if people do not agree with you. > I think it is very appropriate Pedagogical and psychological practitioners don't think so. What are your credentials?
- vanattab 5y ago
  I was raised catholic. 13 siblings 67 first cousins.
  - quek 5y ago
    I can see the problem.
    - vanattab 5y ago
      I can't can you point it out for me?
anoncake 5y ago
What about child-proof power outlets? I can't think of anything similarly dangerous you cannot make inaccessible to a toddler.

xyzzy123 5y ago

I'm not going for aversion or punishment, it's more like... physical communication. I think what is going on in my son's brain is that while I am trying to remain calm and tell him to stop flinging the door open and slamming it shut, oblivious to a nearby 1yo, is that what he actually hears is something like the charlie brown "wah wah wah" noise. His hearing is fine but he can be very inattentive to speech. I found myself needing a way to get through to him, with restraint and removal as escalation and a proper discussion when I actually have his attention. I support anti smacking laws as doing more good than harm but I do feel conflicted about being a hypocrite. I'd like to be better.

anoncake 5y ago
While I wouldn't consider what you do violence, doesn't something like putting your hand on his shoulder work?

goodpoint 5y ago

> People think I am crazy Perhaps there's a reason if people do not agree with you. > I think it is very appropriate Pedagogical and psychological practitioners don't think so. What are your credentials?

vanattab 5y ago
I was raised catholic. 13 siblings 67 first cousins.
- quek 5y ago
  I can see the problem.
  - vanattab 5y ago
    I can't can you point it out for me?

anoncake 5y ago

What about child-proof power outlets? I can't think of anything similarly dangerous you cannot make inaccessible to a toddler.