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I will add to this. Don't just say yes or wait for people to ask. Go out and do stuff. Literally anything. Get skills or hobbies that involve other people. I kn
by MeinBlutIstBlau 5y ago
I will add to this. Don't just say yes or wait for people to ask. Go out and do stuff. Literally anything. Get skills or hobbies that involve other people. I know guitar. What did I do? Went to open mic night at a bar I liked. I've made some friends there now. Know what else I do? Check out other live music. Explore different restaurants. Make attempts to hang out with people even though I know I'll probably be rejected.
How did I do it? I made every single faux pas in front of people. Made constant mistakes and errors to learn how to properly socialize myself. Guess what? It worked. It just took consistent effort and a resolve to get over the fact that I wouldn't always be an awkward person to every new person I met.
- Aboh33 5y agoMy experience living in a large Midwest Metro area is that I never see people outside certain activities. I used to play pickup soccer, these people would never join me in a programming meetup, or as a musician, non-musician friends are non-existent outside certain events. I attribute it to everybody living in different areas etc., but do tire at everything being so compartmentalized.
- Aboh33 5y agoAnyway, I'm currently planning on moving to a different area, maybe a city not so large, I think removing some of the option anxiety and transportation sprawl might help.