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I wish the article had some info on the potential cause. I could only speculate. Anecdote, I'm 40, and I notice my younger male friends actually seem to have c

I wish the article had some info on the potential cause. I could only speculate. Anecdote, I'm 40, and I notice my younger male friends actually seem to have closer male friendships than I and my same age peers would have had, specifically more open about feelings, affection, basically things you'd be less likely to find and older generation man expressing. I wonder if it's like so many other disparities we see, where there are more very close friendships, more loners, and fewer people in the middle ground.

elorant 5y ago
There's more data on the links: https://www.americansurveycenter.org/research/the-state-of-american-friendship-change-challenges-and-loss/ https://www.americansurveycenter.org/research/the-state-of-a...
- sjg007 5y ago
  The results in this report basically jives with my lived experience. I often think I should move to a city where some of my close school friends live. We are all techies and should really all work together but haven’t done so yet. I currently live in my wife’s hometown and there are a lot of folks who were born and raised here so the social fabric is strong. That being said I haven’t made any friends here. Oddly my wife made all new friends and while still has childhood friends here doesn’t really see them. That being said I’ve made friends at various jobs and I correlate a happy job and workplace success with the ability to make a friend at work. The only other thing I do is golf and I get some socialization there. We will probably see things change post pandemic though.
schwartzworld 5y ago
For me, it's been proximity. It's too expensive to own a home close to the city, and all my old friends live on various suburbs 30-60 minutes away.
- lostmsu 5y ago
  Proximity is the king. It really kills the vibe if to hang out you need to plan days in advance because of 20+ minute drive each way. And then just popping up is no longer a thing.

elorant 5y ago

There's more data on the links: https://www.americansurveycenter.org/research/the-state-of-american-friendship-change-challenges-and-loss/ https://www.americansurveycenter.org/research/the-state-of-a...

sjg007 5y ago
The results in this report basically jives with my lived experience. I often think I should move to a city where some of my close school friends live. We are all techies and should really all work together but haven’t done so yet. I currently live in my wife’s hometown and there are a lot of folks who were born and raised here so the social fabric is strong. That being said I haven’t made any friends here. Oddly my wife made all new friends and while still has childhood friends here doesn’t really see them. That being said I’ve made friends at various jobs and I correlate a happy job and workplace success with the ability to make a friend at work. The only other thing I do is golf and I get some socialization there. We will probably see things change post pandemic though.

schwartzworld 5y ago

For me, it's been proximity. It's too expensive to own a home close to the city, and all my old friends live on various suburbs 30-60 minutes away.

lostmsu 5y ago
Proximity is the king. It really kills the vibe if to hang out you need to plan days in advance because of 20+ minute drive each way. And then just popping up is no longer a thing.