OP is suggesting a starting place for people who feel unmoored. It's an anecdote giving him a formula to try on for size. The kind of person who has strong fee

OP is suggesting a starting place for people who feel unmoored. It's an anecdote giving him a formula to try on for size. The kind of person who has strong feelings about their sense of style (for example dressing more feminine) already has achieved a kind of center or "normal" for their personality that the person who posted this lacks.