Regarding tinder being the absolute best presentation of these people: let this lesson sink into you, and take note whenever you see the tiniest evidence of it.

Regarding tinder being the absolute best presentation of these people: let this lesson sink into you, and take note whenever you see the tiniest evidence of it. You already understand this on some level, because you’ve seen profiles where you click through the pictures and say to yourself “hot, hot, hot, hot, WHOAH you accidentally left a real pic in there”. Now keep in mind that this carefully-curated-to-the-point-of-lying info doesn’t just apply to their looks. It’s their profession, their hobbies, how happy they appear to be, the tone of voice they write in, etc. it’s all handcrafted marketing. I’ve met a lot of women from tinder and I can’t decide if this is a sad fact or encouraging to someone who doesn’t feel “good enough”, but you really can count on the profile to be a complete fiction in most cases. This is really useful though, if you can stop being impressed by the polished hotties and find the ones who are gems under the surface. Either that or ditch tinder altogether. I don’t use it anymore but I still think it’s really useful as a tool if your only goal is finding someone to have a conversation with over a drink, and the expectation that you will NOT be making some kind of “love connection” with this person but it will be a fun experience anyway. Once you get there, you magically transform from a sweaty nervous loser on a “first date” to an actual person that the woman you’re having a drink with actually has a chance of finding interesting and charming. That’s the best tinder advice I can give and I really wish someone had given it to me when I was 23.