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>>Third, I wish I had been a better partner to some people I dated. I'm good in a lot of ways: I don't lie, cheat, call names, etc. But I'm stingy with my time.
by Dracophoenix 5y ago
>>Third, I wish I had been a better partner to some people I dated. I'm good in a lot of ways: I don't lie, cheat, call names, etc. But I'm stingy with my time. I've always been a loner, and it takes a lot of effort for me to act differently. But I believe it could have been worth it.
What experiences made you think that being stingy with your time was a bad thing? There's no assurance that more time spent for the sake of your relationships(s) would, on its own, have prolonged or made your any relationships better (i.e sunken cost fallacy).
- mod 5y agoMost of my relationship-stress has been about "attention." The women I've dated all wanted more of it. I've dated three women seriously/long-term, and all three complained of it. Two ended the relationship over it. One of those women I was madly in love with. I still agree there is no assurance that it would have made the relationships last any longer; however, I'd feel better about my role in those relationships, if nothing else. To me, sharing your time with others is one important metric for a life well-lived. I'd just like to be a better human, and I think this is one way I can work on it.