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For reference, I'm 37 now. First, I wish I didn't take my health for granted. When I was 24 I gained about 40lbs. I had previously been very active, and I qui

by mod 5y ago

For reference, I'm 37 now. First, I wish I didn't take my health for granted. When I was 24 I gained about 40lbs. I had previously been very active, and I quit participating in some physical hobbies that kept me thin & fit. Without paying it much attention, I gained those 40lbs and on and off have struggled with weight throughout my 30s. Second, I wish I had also put a lot of thought into assets vs liabilities and focused on owning assets. It's a much better use of your money, and the time you spent earning that money. I "accidentally" purchased an asset (a bar) when I was 26, so I got lucky here, but I could have done much better. Third, I wish I had been a better partner to some people I dated. I'm good in a lot of ways: I don't lie, cheat, call names, etc. But I'm stingy with my time. I've always been a loner, and it takes a lot of effort for me to act differently. But I believe it could have been worth it. Fourth, and this isn't for everyone: I wish I had enlisted. I was fresh out of high school when 9/11 happened, and I've always regretted not enlisting. But the military and the activities they're involved with are very interesting to me. Overall, it's hard to screw it up too badly, especially if you're asking questions like this one. Optimize for health and financial health and you will potentially save yourself much of the drama and suffering life can bring. Good luck!

tomcam 5y ago
A beautiful comment showing a special kind of introspection and humility. Would you contact me through my profile? Hard to find fellow business owners with your perspective.
Jaxtek 5y ago
Thank you! +1 for Health
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Dracophoenix 5y ago
>>Third, I wish I had been a better partner to some people I dated. I'm good in a lot of ways: I don't lie, cheat, call names, etc. But I'm stingy with my time. I've always been a loner, and it takes a lot of effort for me to act differently. But I believe it could have been worth it. What experiences made you think that being stingy with your time was a bad thing? There's no assurance that more time spent for the sake of your relationships(s) would, on its own, have prolonged or made your any relationships better (i.e sunken cost fallacy).
- mod 5y ago
  Most of my relationship-stress has been about "attention." The women I've dated all wanted more of it. I've dated three women seriously/long-term, and all three complained of it. Two ended the relationship over it. One of those women I was madly in love with. I still agree there is no assurance that it would have made the relationships last any longer; however, I'd feel better about my role in those relationships, if nothing else. To me, sharing your time with others is one important metric for a life well-lived. I'd just like to be a better human, and I think this is one way I can work on it.
partisan 5y ago
You are me, almost down to the word, but I am 41 now. At 38, I decided to pay for a trainer for a year and a half. At 40, just before pandemic, I was in the best shape of my life. Unfortunately, I let the stresses of pandemic and end of a marriage derail me, but I am remotivated to get back on track now. I agree that health and relationships are the most important things in retrospect, but I think you can still get to where you want. There is time yet.
- mod 5y ago
  I've been thinking a lot about hiring a personal trainer. Can you tell me a bit about how you selected one? And what your fitness goals were like? Thanks!
  - partisan 5y ago
    Truthfully, I was assigned one by the gym as I had little perspective on it, but I was clear about my goals and they assigned someone who had experience in helping clients reach those goals. I would say that you shouldn't feel strange about switching trainers if needed. They are people, like us, and so some are more dedicated to the task than others. My own goals were weight loss and regaining mobility. I played a lot of basketball in high school, college, and then again in my late 20s. By 38, I couldn't go down stairs without pain nor could I jump nor run. I achieved those goals with the help of the trainer and even played some basketball again, which I had completely written off as a possibility. In terms of weight loss, I lost 50 lbs and gained about 10-15 lbs of muscle.

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tomcam 5y ago

A beautiful comment showing a special kind of introspection and humility. Would you contact me through my profile? Hard to find fellow business owners with your perspective.

Jaxtek 5y ago

Thank you! +1 for Health

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Dracophoenix 5y ago

>>Third, I wish I had been a better partner to some people I dated. I'm good in a lot of ways: I don't lie, cheat, call names, etc. But I'm stingy with my time. I've always been a loner, and it takes a lot of effort for me to act differently. But I believe it could have been worth it. What experiences made you think that being stingy with your time was a bad thing? There's no assurance that more time spent for the sake of your relationships(s) would, on its own, have prolonged or made your any relationships better (i.e sunken cost fallacy).

mod 5y ago
Most of my relationship-stress has been about "attention." The women I've dated all wanted more of it. I've dated three women seriously/long-term, and all three complained of it. Two ended the relationship over it. One of those women I was madly in love with. I still agree there is no assurance that it would have made the relationships last any longer; however, I'd feel better about my role in those relationships, if nothing else. To me, sharing your time with others is one important metric for a life well-lived. I'd just like to be a better human, and I think this is one way I can work on it.

partisan 5y ago

You are me, almost down to the word, but I am 41 now. At 38, I decided to pay for a trainer for a year and a half. At 40, just before pandemic, I was in the best shape of my life. Unfortunately, I let the stresses of pandemic and end of a marriage derail me, but I am remotivated to get back on track now. I agree that health and relationships are the most important things in retrospect, but I think you can still get to where you want. There is time yet.

mod 5y ago
I've been thinking a lot about hiring a personal trainer. Can you tell me a bit about how you selected one? And what your fitness goals were like? Thanks!
- partisan 5y ago
  Truthfully, I was assigned one by the gym as I had little perspective on it, but I was clear about my goals and they assigned someone who had experience in helping clients reach those goals. I would say that you shouldn't feel strange about switching trainers if needed. They are people, like us, and so some are more dedicated to the task than others. My own goals were weight loss and regaining mobility. I played a lot of basketball in high school, college, and then again in my late 20s. By 38, I couldn't go down stairs without pain nor could I jump nor run. I achieved those goals with the help of the trainer and even played some basketball again, which I had completely written off as a possibility. In terms of weight loss, I lost 50 lbs and gained about 10-15 lbs of muscle.