Your selfless self has always been at the center of your existence since you can remember. Your selfless self is the one that does the experiencing, and the de

Your selfless self has always been at the center of your existence since you can remember. Your selfless self is the one that does the experiencing, and the decision making. And that's all you really need at this point, especially when you're older. So decide what you wish to experience next, and decide to experience it. That's it! Strip everything away and let go by taking everything you've been framing as internal and reframing it as external. It's a huge moving out party. Throw that sofa out on the lawn. Empty your apartment so you can identify everything people threw in there, and what it is you actually miss. You might have to quit your job, get a divorce, or disown your father to get there. But you can't give anyone a second chance unless you accept they've stolen from you once. This includes your ego. But this cannot include your selfless self because it cannot take from you. It only takes on behalf of the needy to serve them and waits for new requests. Your head will tell you if it aches. Your body will tell you it's tired. Your ego will tell you if it has issues with the other egos in the room. So take asprin, get some good sleep, and rethink your relationships. These are not problems. They're just tasks. Some are harder to solve than others, but you have a brain, and google and books where every solution has been shared at least once. And it's always your selfless self that goes to work and does everything for you. Your ego never solved anything. So once you've emptied your cup and are in a good mood, ask for your next experience. Make a wish. And go do it treating it as the most important event in the world because it is. It's your truth. At which point, what do you need your ego for? If it's what got you here, then it's job is done. And you may even wish to experience giving someone a second chance.