I'm mostly a big fan of my Macbook Air, first Mac I've owned in 15 years. But I'd jump for joy if they'd just let me control the auto-open feature of Music.app

I'm mostly a big fan of my Macbook Air, first Mac I've owned in 15 years. But I'd jump for joy if they'd just let me control the auto-open feature of Music.app that forces it to the front every time I take my headphone off and put them back on. I'm in a damn meeting. How on earth did they ever come to the decision that they should assume everyone using headphones is listening to music? I scoured the Internet and this has apparently been a problem for at least six years, and Apple keeps breaking all the workarounds people find to disable the behavior.