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Well, they say it's too much - but really it's just that they believe you aren't a valid member of the group you're claiming to be and they can't directly call
by justinjlynn 5y ago
Well, they say it's too much - but really it's just that they believe you aren't a valid member of the group you're claiming to be and they can't directly call you a liar. They're wrong, of course; but they're also lying when they say it's too much effort - that's not why.
- wlesieutre 5y agoYes, very much a lack of respect for someone's choice of identity. Forget nicknames, how would these people feel if somebody just said "Hey I'm going to call you Arnold now, because you fit my mental image of Arnold." Wildly inappropriate thing to do? If you want to go and impose whatever pronoun you want on someone based on how they look, don't act shocked when you get called out for being a dick to them.
- Mirioron 5y agoWe don't have an obligation to call somebody by their real name nor should we have an obligation to use their preferred pronouns. We should do it out of respect, but we shouldn't be obligated to do so by law or some other rule. I've not seen someone suffer negative consequences for calling someone else the wrong real name. I've seen instances of negative consequences for someone using the wrong pronoun though.
- wlesieutre 5y agoIs that because there would be no consequences if I showed up to my job and started calling every customer I talk to "Frank"? Or is it because deliberately going out of your way to call people the wrong name to make a political point isn't a thing that anyone does, so nobody has needed a rule to make them knock it off?
- justinjlynn 5y agochuckles You know, in being subtle like that, I fear you might not be making your point clearly enough for the others.
- hn_go_brrrrr 5y agoYep, I missed it until your comment prompted me to read more carefully and again.